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The power of visualisation and goal setting. Massive thank you to Tino da Silva, Business TV  for putting this together for me. I was put on the spot, asked to do this a few minutes earlier and just decided to go for it. No preparation, no time to think about content. You could say that’s LIFE. We are hit with daily challenges, they come when we least expect them. Success is based on creating the right mindset and having the self belief that all is possible and will be ok. The outcome may not always be perfect but as I always say, it’s better to give something a go and be proud of having tried rather than filling your life with regrets. So take action today, say YES to a new opportunity. Put your fear’s aside (they do not serve you), believe in yourself. You can do this! You can make everything and anything possible. Show your children how to take the next step to overcome their own limiting self beliefs

Life is a gift. Do not waste it

Life is incredibly short and we should not waste it. We should be living every second, every minute, every hour of it whilst we can because none of us know what is round the corner for us. We all speak about doing something ‘one day’  (listen to Brian Tracey’s Someday Isle on Youtube) but how many of us put our dreams on hold and actually take the next step to truly action them. How many of us just get used to sitting within our comfort zone where nothing exciting happens, where you drift along thinking about that someday when you will do everything that you have always thought about. The reality is that ‘someday’ never comes. Life has a habit of throwing huge challenges at you and it was one of these challenges, an unexpected medical diagnosis within the family, that led me to action the Female Entrepreneurs Adventure Expedition, October 2018 in Malawi.

It has been my dream for years, since the age of 25,  to create an expedition for women, not just aimed at founders of businesses but at women who want to consciously create a better future for the next generation. Women who are passionate about sustainability and female empowerment. My mission as a wife, as a mum of 3,  is to give women a voice. To inspire them to leave a legacy by growing new collaborations of likeminded powerful women to build strong communities.

I have joined forces with Orbis Expeditions to turn my dream to reality. This 9 day expedition in Malawi is tailor made to your personal interests. It aims to link you with 14 inspirational women who want to give back, share information, create new collaborations. Women who want to push themselves personally and professionally, whilst connecting to nature, hitting the pause button and reflecting on their own business and life goals in the beauty of Africa.

During your time in Malawi you will meet a real range of people from market sellers to musicians to youth group leaders, to women who run successful businesses in the city. We will link your skills, interests and passions to relevant entrepreneurs in Malawi so that you can share your skills, experiences to build possible links for future businesses and friendships with the women you meet.

If you know that you were born to make a difference in this world, to contribute in ways you never thought possible, to change other people’s lives then this expedition is for you. Please click here for full expedition outline and contact kate@orbis-expeditions.com for further info or email me nextstepmentor123@gmail.com.

Female-Entrepreneus-Adventure-Expedition-2018.pdf 

Ania Jeffries

Award Winning Coach within Education 2017, the Coaching Academy, International Coaching Awards

The young ones – Mental Health

With young people facing so many challenges today (such as bullying, pressure of high academic achievement, fear of not finding work coupled with student debt, domestic abuse, family breakdown etc), mental health illness is higher than in any previous generation. Yet the NHS only spends 0.6% of its budget on children’s mental health issues. The impact of social media on the well being of preteens and teens is now also being looked at, with researchers describing this phenomen as ‘facebook depression’- defined as depression and low self esteem that develops when preteens and teens spend too much time on social media sites such as FB, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Tumblr. (source: GS O”Keefe, K Clarke-Pearson – Pediatrics, 2011). The pressure of being perfect, of living the life witnessed on reality shows is becoming too overwhelming and leading to poorer mental health (poor sleep quality, depression, anxiety, low self esteem) amongst young people.

Mental health illness can occur at any age, at any stage of life. It does not matter whether you are male or female, rich or poor, where you live, how old you are or what ethnic group you belong to.

One in four people in the UK experience some kind of mental health problem in the course of the year (http://mind.org.uk/). 1 in 10 children and young people have a mental health diagnosis in the UK (www.mentalhealth.org.uk). 50% of mental health problems are established by the age of 14 and 75% by the age of 24 (www.mentalhealth.org.uk). Between one in every 12 and 1 in 15 children and young people deliberately self harm (www.youngminds.co.uk). Anxiety, depression, self-harming, eating disorders are the most common mental health disorders in children and young people. More often than not socio-economic factors do not play as big a role as you would assume, but a combination of environmental, biological and psychological factors do. http://www.thekimfoundation.org/html/about_mental_ill/causes.html.

Mental health illness amongst young people is rising with many people not receiving the necessary care they require to support their condition. The emotional wellbeing of a child is just as important as their physical health. Good mental health begins in infancy and early diagnosis in childhood can prevent the development of disorders later on in life, but with the current lack of education and acceptance, 3 in 4 young people suffer alone, staying quiet about their mental health illness, for fear of being stigmatised.

We all have moments when we can feel anxious, down, or angry but it’s when these feelings persist for a long period of time or begin to interfere with the daily running of your life, that they may become a mental health issue. Mental health illness is still an unspoken word and for many sufferers and their families it is like a black cloud hanging over their head. It’s a subject that no one really wants to talk about, to fully confront. It affects not just the sufferer but family relationships, loved ones and friends. Too many families are being torn apart by mental health following the loss of a loved one. You can be ill with mental health and yet look absolutely fine. If you have cancer you are offered sympathy and yet if you suffer from mental health you are expected to snap out of it. Can you imagine if physical illness was treated the same way as mental illness and someone being diagnosed with diabetes or a stroke, was told to change their mindset and they would then feel better?

Bill Clinton once said ‘Mental health is nothing to be ashamed of but stigma and bias shame us all.” Major celebrities such as Cara Delevigne, Demi Lovato, Jared Padelecki, Ruby Wax, Jim Carey, John Green and Sarah Silverman have come forward breaking the silence about their own suffering with mental health illness in the hope of increasing public understanding and raising awareness of the issue. But that is not enough. We all need to be doing something to eliminate the stigma, to support our friends, their families, our colleagues. To stop them from having to wear a happy mask and hide how they are really feeling inside.

By changing the attitude and behaviour of others towards mental health, we can help these young people and parents to understand that it is not a sign of weakness to be open about their child’s mental health and wellbeing and it’s ok to ask for help. The experience of stigma can sometimes be worse than the symptoms themselves so let’s help improve the lives of those experiencing mental health illness in any small way that we can. We can start by sharing some understanding.

Let them know they are not alone. Encourage them to talk about their condition. Don’t let them suffer in silence.

Be accepting of who they are. Do not lecture them.

Don’t tiptoe around them. Treat them like any other normal person.

Don’t label people with a mental illness. People are people not diagnoses.

Don’t be afraid of people with mental illness

Don’t use disrespectful language for people with mental illness. Treat them with respect and compassion.

Don’t blame people with mental illness. It is not their fault.

Be a role model. Educate your family, family, co-workers to behave/think more positively on this subject.

Show kindness and support to those supporting others with mental illness.

And why have I chosen to write about this? I am a Life Coach and Mentor who works with various charities. I frequently witness people who suffer with mental health illness and struggle, predominantly, with the lack of care available and the associated stigma.

We need to take a stand, change the way people think and give them the support they need and deserve. Young people after all are the future.

CAN I ASK FOR YOUR HELP PLEASE?

I am a Coach with Yes Futures, an organisation which specialises in extra-curricular personal development programmes, improving young people’s confidence, resilience and access to successful futures. I have promised the pupils that I am mentoring that I will get onto Nick Ferrari’s LBC radio show http://www.lbc.co.uk/radio/presenters/nick-ferrari to talk about the importance of mums inspiring their kids to Dream and Think Big. There are 15 pupils, 3 Coaches and we have all set goals which we need to complete by 1 July. I believe there is no point in setting such an exercise unless you choose a really big hairy audacious goal. I have contacted the LBC Production Team twice, been following Nick on Twitter but no response… I will not give up! This exercise is all about teaching them the power of self belief, confidence, persistence and determination. If anyone is connected to Nick could you please share this message, connect me to him.. Or share my tweets ref Nick https://twitter.com/jeffriesania tweets or FB Posts https://www.facebook.com/Nextstepmentor123. I would be so very grateful.

This is an opportunity to show these pupils that if you believe in something enough you can achieve your goals. Thank you so much.

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www.yesfutures.org/